How to Be Selfish & Love Yourself More
Please don’t be alarmed by the title of this blog. This segment is for all those out there that are so busy in life helping and taking care of others that they completely forget to help and take care of themselves. These people, in my opinion, need to learn how to be more selfish … not by taking from others but by giving more to themselves. Here are five basic ways to be more generous and loving to yourself. When you take good care of yourself, you are in an even better position to help and be there for others.
- Go back to the basics. Yes, that’s right! In the midst of all the everyday chaos and daily grind, are you really getting enough rest, sleep, or me-time? Are you eating proper, healthy, nutritious meals? Are you drinking enough water? Are you getting the right amount of exercise for you? Are you keeping up with your medical, dental, and eye exams? Are you taking proper hygienic care of yourself? (I hear you giggling!) ☺ If you said no to any of these, this is the perfect place to get started in taking better care of yourself.
- Get quiet and go within. There’s a saying, “If you don’t go within, you go without.” I find this to be so true. Whatever your spiritual beliefs are, setting aside some quiet time to meditate, connect with Spirit, or just simply to clear your mind, this will help you become more grounded and centered. When you are truly grounded and centered, you are more present and in the now that nothing really ruffles your feathers. You can handle almost anything. Getting quiet and going within not only helps to relieve tension and stress but it also empowers you to set healthy boundaries with people and to prioritize what is really important to you.
- Nurture your needs and treat yourself. I tend to carry tension in my back, shoulders, and neck. So, for me, getting chiropractic care followed by a deep tissue massage on a weekly basis has done wonders for my well-being. Identify what your particular needs are and decide which ways you can best get those needs met. Why not treat yourself? You deserve it!
- Take stock and clean house. This can be interpreted in many ways. For me, it means taking stock of all the negative people in my life and either setting strong boundaries with them, distancing myself from them, or letting go of them completely. I love the saying, “Be with people who bring out the best in you; not the worst in you.” You are the King or Queen of your own personal royal court and only YOU can decide who you let in. – – Another way that I take stock and clean house is to literally clean out my house. It’s a Feng Shui kind of thing. Everything is energy and all the things I don’t like, use, or need take up too much energy in my house and ultimately in my life as well. So, either I donate them, give them away, recycle them, or I trash them. Cleaning house, whether it involves people or things, will help make room for and bring in more positive energy, people, and things into your life.
- Don’t forget to fill up your fun tank and laugh. This should be easy, right? Well, for workaholics like myself, sometimes it’s a challenge to even set aside time to do something fun. And, yet, I do it. I do it for me. I also do it for the people around me. The happier I am, the better it is for all people around me. And, I really love to laugh. It’s such a great release. I really think laughter is a gift. Sometimes, I’ll be hanging out with people and we’ll bust up laughing so hard we can’t breathe. That’s the best! But sometimes, I’ll catch people trying to stop laughing. They want to hold back. Maybe they don’t think it’s mature or cool or whatever. My advice? Let it all out! Have a blast! Humanity, our planet, our galaxy needs more positive, joyful, and light energy.
I am primarily a writer but I’ve studied Spiritual, Holistic, and Healing Arts for over 25 years. In fact, I am a certified practitioner and instructor. The items on this list have helped me personally (and my clients) through the years and it is my hope that they can help others as well. More to come in future blogs.
By: Melinda Garcia